Cecchettin’s feminicide and the rigor of words
Cecchettin's femicide requires us to be very clear at least with words. Guiglia's notebook
Just before midday, even dreams die in a gully near Lake Barcis in the province of Pordenone, where the defenseless body of Giulia Cecchettin was found. Dreams of a miracle, to be honest, because the violent reconstruction of the facts already led us to fear the worst.
The bitter reality extinguishes forever the hoped-for return of the girl who was supposed to graduate, and whose call for help had been heard by a witness as she was forcibly loaded into a car driven, according to the investigators' hypotheses, by her ex boyfriend Filippo Turetta. Disappeared into thin air for days, starting on the cursed night of Saturday 11 November. And now, in the hour of tragic discovery and tears, the appeals of the respective families say it all.
THE ANGER OF GIULIA CECCHETTIN'S SISTER
“It was your good boy”, accuses poor Giulia's sister with anger and pain. “Filippo, hand yourself over to the police”, his parents implore him, also following the wise advice of the Public Prosecutor in Venice, Bruno Cherchi. Because in the meantime, while the two families and the whole of Italy followed with anguish the crazy journey of that suspicious car reported by the witness, and which covered kilometers and kilometers between our country and Austria as the cameras confirmed as it passed, Filippo was investigated for attempted murder, and pursued by a European arrest warrant.
THE CLARITY OF WORDS
This is not the time or need to judge anything at all: luckily the judiciary will take care of it. But if this drama also falls within the horrible count of feminicides , like everything else, until proven otherwise, let us imagine, we must be very clear at least with our words.
If, in the face of increasingly widespread and complete information, and punctual and punitive laws, and law enforcement agencies and judges now aware of how to prevent and repress violence by men against women, such violence instead persists even and even among twenty-year-olds, it means that families have not educated. That the schools did not teach. That the community did not intervene.
Femicide is not the pathology of a "sick love", as is still said today with the usual and unbearable refrain of trying to understand the wrong of the guilty, rather than the reasons of the victims, but rather the civic and civil failure of society. Each part of it with its own share of responsibility. Because we are responsible even when we hide, perhaps also and only out of human fear, behind not seeing, not hearing and not speaking about even evident wrong, i.e. violent, relationships between men and women. Reports from relatives, friends, acquaintances or simple passers-by.
Instead, we must have not the courage, but the rectitude to intervene in time and at all levels. If basic respect for women is so brutally called into question, it is time to teach and teach respect at the table with one's children, in the classroom with one's students and in society with one's citizens.
(Published in L'Arena di Verna, Bresciaoggi and the Gazzetta di Mantova)
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This is a machine translation from Italian language of a post published on Start Magazine at the URL https://www.startmag.it/mondo/morte-giulia-cecchettin/ on Thu, 23 Nov 2023 06:16:53 +0000.